The main problem after retirement is that the person has a lot of time at hand and very less work to do.This creates huge vacuum in person's life and mind and unfortunately most of the people try to fill this in ways that can't be said "adaptive" in today's individualistic and independent minded society.for ex nearly all of them then decide to take all the matters of household into their hands continuously interfering, criticizing, demanding and in general trying to control everyone's life around them which understandably is resented by others.So what is the solution ,how can one avoid conflicts and lead a peaceful life .Some of the suggestions are--
1 Don't feel that now that you are retired you should not do anything.It's true that with age physical strength declines but still you can do things which you like.Till now you have been busy in fulfilling your responsibilities now do something which has taken backseat like pursuing a hobby, doing something you always wanted to do like travelling,painting,music opening a school anything .
2. Maintain disciplined life style wake up early go for a walk do yoga,basically be physically active.
3 If you want you can now give back to the society teach underprivileged kids,do something for less fortunate people.
4 This is also a good time to renew old relations,meet friends,relatives.
5 Take this time as an opportunity to renew your love for your spouse now that you are free and you can spend time as husband and wife spend time together travel, go for walk together .
6. Instead of interfering in small matters like which thing should be kept where and how the food should be cooked and why daughter in law and son are alone in room,try to help like paying bills or dropping /picking kids from bus stop or school.
Basically Keep Yourself Busy and most of the problems will b solved when you feel tempted to interfere or scold or control everyone stop and remember how you felt when your father did the same to you
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Saturday, July 3, 2010
problems after retirement
Retirement is an important event in anyone’s life. It is a stage when a person officially retires from active work life. This is a very crucial transition stage in a person’s life as well as his family’s life. It has a huge impact on the life of the retired person some of the problem faced by the person are as follows
2.If the person has not made any financial plans and not saved properly.
3. If he doesn't have good relations with other family members or has no one who can take his care of his finances.
B. Cognitive problems- Mental problems like Dementia, Alzheimer’s start at this age. If the person has already suffered from some mental illness then there is always a chance of relapse at this time. The people with mental problem are considered as a burden by the family if the person is old also then the chances of abuse are high.
C. Emotional/psychological/adjustment problems- At this time the most concerned area is the area of adjustment .The person has to adjust with the family, with himself & with the environment.
The person suddenly finds himself absolutely free, it feels good in the beginning but as time passes the boredom is very difficult to tackle. Earlier everyone wanted his time and he was busy now he has time and everybody is busy .H e wants to talk to people give them advice share his experiences but no one has time. In this situation the person might feel neglected, ignored. Problem also arises when the person starts interfering in daily chores of the home like cleanliness, or the way of cooking. This leads to daily conflicts with the ladies of the home. The person also has to adjust with the fact that now he is not the earning member of the family and the control of the home is gradually moving to the hands of the son.
The person might have feelings of emptiness, worthlessness, helplessness, which might lead to depression. They become hyper sensitive, this leads to perception of neglect, rejection and feelings that since he is not earning he is not needed by the family. If the person lacks social support like friends, and is not willing to engage himself then the problem arises.
The problem also arises when the person retires from the post of authority. He is habitual of waited upon many people at his call no restriction on spending money. When such a person retires he suddenly finds that he no longer has many servants for him on the contrary he is expected to help in certain household tasks like paying bills, looking after grandchildren buying vegetables.
He is also expected to curb his expenses. This also hurts people they feel that when they were earning they gave best life to their children but now they are being asked to spend less.
Financial Problems-
1. If the person is the only earning member of the family then the source of regular income is stopped which is a matter of concern for the person.2.If the person has not made any financial plans and not saved properly.
3. If he doesn't have good relations with other family members or has no one who can take his care of his finances.
Health Problems-
A Physical problems – Many physical problems arise at the old age some of them are life threatening, some limit persons mobility, but most of them are recurrent if not taken care properly. Decreasing eye sight, decreasing hearing ability , limits person’s working capacity.B. Cognitive problems- Mental problems like Dementia, Alzheimer’s start at this age. If the person has already suffered from some mental illness then there is always a chance of relapse at this time. The people with mental problem are considered as a burden by the family if the person is old also then the chances of abuse are high.
C. Emotional/psychological/adjustment problems- At this time the most concerned area is the area of adjustment .The person has to adjust with the family, with himself & with the environment.
The person suddenly finds himself absolutely free, it feels good in the beginning but as time passes the boredom is very difficult to tackle. Earlier everyone wanted his time and he was busy now he has time and everybody is busy .H e wants to talk to people give them advice share his experiences but no one has time. In this situation the person might feel neglected, ignored. Problem also arises when the person starts interfering in daily chores of the home like cleanliness, or the way of cooking. This leads to daily conflicts with the ladies of the home. The person also has to adjust with the fact that now he is not the earning member of the family and the control of the home is gradually moving to the hands of the son.
The person might have feelings of emptiness, worthlessness, helplessness, which might lead to depression. They become hyper sensitive, this leads to perception of neglect, rejection and feelings that since he is not earning he is not needed by the family. If the person lacks social support like friends, and is not willing to engage himself then the problem arises.
The problem also arises when the person retires from the post of authority. He is habitual of waited upon many people at his call no restriction on spending money. When such a person retires he suddenly finds that he no longer has many servants for him on the contrary he is expected to help in certain household tasks like paying bills, looking after grandchildren buying vegetables.
He is also expected to curb his expenses. This also hurts people they feel that when they were earning they gave best life to their children but now they are being asked to spend less.
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